How far in advance should I invite a guy as my date to a wedding?

I am a bridesmaid for a wedding at the end of May.
How far in advance should I invite a guy as my date to a wedding?
I'd say as soon as you receive the invitation.





BUT......do you really want to invite someone to the wedding whom you won't be around much during the day?


You'll have obligations to the wedding party and in doing so, he'll be on his own for the better part of the entire day.


If he's a newer acquaintance, he's not going to know anyone and will feel very much like an outsider and it will be a very uncomfortable and awkward day for him.





Think on that before you bring a date....
Reply:i dont want to sound rude, but my maid of honour wants to invite a guest, which is fine. But the part I dont understand is that she isn't really seeing any "one" in particular, and all of our friends are going to be at the wedding already.


Because shes in the wedding party, my concern is where her "date" is going to sit, and is he going to feel uncomfortable, I understand that its just for the dinner that really they wouldn't be by one anothers side, but also the ceremony, and the time in between when were doing photos. Personally if someone asked me to go as a date and they were in the wedding party, I would be reluctant.


If you really want to bring a guest, consider that if you ask someone, and they bail a couple days before, the bride and groom to be will already have had to pay for that person. If your just starting to see someone, I would wait, and ask the bride what would be the deadline to RSVP for your guest, and give yourself until then to decide who your going to bring.
Reply:You need to ask the bride if you can bring a date. If so, then you need to let her know in your RSVP response. You should not be bringing a casual-boytoy to a wedding. Only bring serious boyfriends. This extra person costs for the couple getting married. I know that I am paying per head for my wedding and if your name is not on invitation, you are not invited. Two of my bridesmaids do not have serious boyfriends - I do not want them bringing the flavor of the week to the wedding. Leave the drama at home, and go hang out with your friends - never know...might meet a nice boy at the wedding.
Reply:Well, you can't exactly wait until RSVPs because you're IN the wedding, so they know that you're coming.





I would casually mention that you're going to be a BM in a wedding and ask him if he would like to escort you. I would ask him now so that he can prepare (buy something to wear, etc)





Make sure you let him know that it's ok if he doesn't want to go. If he doesn't know anyone, he may feel uncomfortable sitting through a ceremony alone.





Good luck!
Reply:Depends on the relationship. If you just began to date, it will seem funny asking him to commit so far in advance. If you have a steady then anytime is fine. If you want to be sure perhaps you can ask a male friend. Especially if your dating guy doesn't know any of the attendees. You will be involved with the bride and he will be alone.
Reply:ask him now, it's not too early. I've been with my bf a year and in the last year we've been to 3 weddings together. at first it was weird when we were together less than 6 mos, it's like, do I ask him or is this going anywhere? like will we still be dating when the wedding rolls around? but once you're with someone for a good long while, it's OK to let them know about events like a few months in advance. you don't want him booking a trip to africa or something for that weekend right?
Reply:Relationship strong and at least 6 mos., you could ask now. I think


it would be better to wait to ask a new guy...he may be a has been by the time the wedding comes. And, you could go alone...lots of singles


usually at a wedding....and you will be looking your best. Go have fun!
Reply:I would say, as soon as possible.. Not sure if you are just friends with this person, or dating him. But I would do it soon.. He might be busy that day, so it will give you time to find someone else to go with.. I hope it all works out and you have a wonderful time..
Reply:Depends how serious you and the guy are... if you have been together a while, then ask him now, but if you are just casually seeing him, wait until 2 or 3 weeks before the wedding.
Reply:If you were just a guest I would say no sooner than 1 month in advance, but since you are a part of the wedding then I would say about 2 months in advance.
Reply:a few weeks ahead, you will need to give the bride notice so she can plan room for him. you could always ask the bride about this, too.
Reply:As soon as RSVPs are due