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Monday, October 12, 2009

Would it be impolite to invite some to the wedding ceremony but not the reception party?

Everyone wants to come to our wedding but I just can't invite everyone to the wedding. Help?!
Would it be impolite to invite some to the wedding ceremony but not the reception party?
No actually it is perfectly acceptable thus why the wedding invitation is the BIG invitation and the reception card is enclosed.





However people who are only invited to the ceremony are not expected to give gifts.
Reply:Yeah, you already know the answer to this. It's impolite to invite someone to the ceremony and not the reception. It's better not to invite them at all. If you happen to run into them and they ask about it just tell them you decided to have a smaller wedding and couldn't afford to invite everyone you wanted to.





Someone else suggested having a cake and punch reception right after the ceremony. That's a great idea! You could either have it at the church or ceremony site, or rent a picnic shelter at a park. Serve cake, coffee and punch, do the garter and bouquet tosses, and maybe even share a dance as husband and wife so everyone feels like they were a part of the festivities. Then later in the evening have a private dinner with just close friends and immediate family (you may also want to include out of town guests if you can afford it).





Hope I've been helpful!
Reply:My sister did that. She had an "open church" wedding and put an invitation in our church's bulletin the week before.





The reception was for only those who got invitations in the mail. It seemed to work well for her; I didn't hear anyone who came to the wedding complain that they weren't invited to the reception.





People understand- receptions are the expensive part of the whole wedding day. Just remember that you can't make everyone happy no matter what you do!





Also, it's your day. Just try to make it fun for you and your spouse-to-be, because ultimately, that's all that matters for that day!! :)





Best of luck!
Reply:Yes. You could have a small ceremony and invite more people to the reception, but you can't do it the other way around. Sorry!





"According to etiquette, everyone who attends the ceremony should be invited to the reception. It is acceptable to have a small ceremony and a large reception, but not the other way around. One way to handle the problem is to have a cake and punch reception at the church immediately following the ceremony for all of the guests followed by a private reception for close friends and family. However, there will still be some who will be offended when they learn that they were not included at the second reception. "





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Glenna Tooman, Wedding Expert, ForeverWed.com


Memory Makers Event Planning, LLC


http://www.memorable-events.com
Reply:Technically it is. However the fire limit of the church hall is only 150, so we need to get around that. We're not inviting people to the wedding, but we're making sure that people know when it is. Everyone knows that the wedding is supposed to be big (because it's the important part), and that anyone can come, so we're relying on the fact that our friends are smart enough to put two and two together.
Reply:Well I wouldn't send the person an invite. Simply let the person know where the wedding will be and at what time - if they want to come its up to them.





Most people understand that wedding couples have budgets and if they aren't that close would already have an inclin that they may not be invited.
Reply:Hi. YES, it's impolite to invite people to the wedding ceremony and not the reception.





You can have a large reception and a small, private ceremony....but not the other way around it. Those invited to the ceremony must be invited to the reception.





Sorry.....
Reply:Yes its fine the people that say you can't invite only to the ceremony are just greedy and would probably invite people for just the gifts its fine and anyway isnt the actual ceremony the important thing it is in my opinion.
Reply:some people would be ok with it....but for the most part it is kinda rude...





couples go threw this all the time... the wedding list gets bigger and bigger and then they freak!! its ok to tell people you would love to have them but you are only having a small wedding.
Reply:I don't think I'd call it rude, but rather inappropriate. You can invite people to just the dance, I've seen that done before. Mail them a small one-piece invitation to the dance that just lists the date, dance time, location, etc.
Reply:Yes!





I have been to some small weddings with close family and friends, yet the reception was larger.
Reply:Depending what you are wanting. I would want people to see me marry vrs get tanked with me
Reply:Very rude. Think how you would feel. Do the right thing....looking back you will be glad you did so.
Reply:Yes it would
Reply:yap

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