How do you invite girls to a hens night without inviting to a wedding?

I am wanting to invite some friends to my hens day and the wedding ceremony but we can't afford to have them at the reception. How do I word it in an invite that won't offend anyone and tactful
How do you invite girls to a hens night without inviting to a wedding?
Don't invite them at all then. It is rude to do such a thing. They will most likely be offended that you don't want them there to celebrate after the wedding. I know I would...
Reply:You really can't invite anyone to your ceremony but not to your reception...it will come off as rude and tacky.


The hens day depends on a few factors. If a friend or family member is planning it and it is organized like an American bachelorette party where guests are not expected to bring gifts, it is acceptable to invite girls who are not invited to the wedding. However, if this is like a bridal shower where the guests do bring gifts, then there is no polite way to invite those not invited to the wedding reception.
Reply:These days with weddings being so expensive, guests lists have to be limited. Not everyone can be invited to the wedding, so some of my friends have used the hen's or buck's night to invite those they were unable to invite.


I would send them an invite and when you speak to them just let them know that you would love for them to celebrate with youm as you were having a small wedding with limited numbers.


If you can try and pay for something, whether it be entrance to a club or a drink so at least they feel appreciated!


Good luck


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Guests are never expected to bring gifts to a hens night! Its a party to celebrate your last night as a single girl. What about if your getting married and you have lots of work friends but cant invite 20 work people! Your not allowed to invite them to your hens night?!? I would not be offended if I was invited to the hens and not the wedding...
Reply:Are you the bride? Or the MOH?


It's not right if you're the bride inviting these girls to just your hens day and not the wedding.


However, if you are the maid of honor organizing the hens day, I'll give you an example of when this worked out: I was MOH for my sister, and I invited all her girl friends she invited to her wedding, along with just a few of MY close friends who weren't part of the wedding. I didn't give them official invites, I just talked to them on the phone and said, hey, want to join us for this fun night to make it extra special? My sister would love to see you there! It was a small group, so it did help to make it more fun. We had a blast, and the girls weren't offended at all knowing they'd get to enjoy the bachelorette party which is always fun, but didn't expect to be a part of the wedding.


That I'd say is an only exception, when you're very close to the girls yourself as the organizer - maid of honor, and they are your personal friends, not the bride's, and it's all accepted casually.
Reply:You can't since that is rude and improper. It is also highly improper to invite someone to the ceremony but not the reception.
Reply:Can't be done. If you can't invite them to the wedding, you can't invite them to other events. So, what you do is cut back on your wedding ceremony and reception so you can include more people.
Reply:Don't do it. If you can't invite them to the reception, don't invite them at all.