Is it really necessary to invite aunts and uncles that you haven't seen in 5 yrs?

I really want to keep the guest list low.I mean if I saw my aunts and uncles on a regular basis than I would definitely invite them.I just dont see the point if I dont see them that often.
Is it really necessary to invite aunts and uncles that you haven't seen in 5 yrs?
I completely agree. I'm keeping my wedding extremely small and am only inviting the friends and family that I see semi-often. So I say no, it isn't necessary to invite them. Just because they're family doesn't mean that they should be invited....
Reply:Here's some ways to control your guest list . .





You should not invite anyone under the age of twelve years old. Children are uncomfortable during the ceremony because they do not understand what is going on. Children do not appreciate "the nice dinner" that is being served, they would rather have a hot dog.





You should not invite anyone that you have not seen or talked to in the last TWO YEARS.





You should not invite anyone that you do not know. For example: your parents' neighbors or co-workers or friends.





You should only invite those co-workers that you socialize with "after working hours." Do not feel obligated to invite "everyone from the office" just because someone else did.





Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
Reply:The basic rule of thumb when you are planning a small wedding is, if you haven't seen the person in over a year, don't invite them. After the wedding, it is perfectly correct to send your distant relatives a wedding announcement, just to let them know you got married. (And sending a wedding announcement doesn't make them obligated to send you a gift either.) I have distant realtives over in Jersey whom I've never even really met, and they're not on my guest list. Neither are my aunts on my dad's side, or one uncle on my mom's side, because I haven't really seen or talked to them in years. As far as aunts and uncles go, I'm only inviting my mom's twin brother who has been like a dad to me my whole life, and my mom's sister, who I talk to and e-mail frequently.
Reply:I don't think it's at necessary to invite family you don't feel close to. None of my aunts or uncles were invited to my wedding. I haven't seen them in over a decade. If anything just send them a wedding announcement so they know you got married. Or a picture of you and your husband in your wedding attire. But no, it's not at all necessary.
Reply:The general rule is that you dont invite anyone you have not seen or talked to in one year bc it may look like a gift grab. Im breaking this because Im fairly close with all my relatives. I think this is a matter of personal choice honestly.
Reply:It is nice to send them in invitation whether they attend or not. Chances are they will hear about it from someone and their feelings would get hurt. It's always better to send in invitation than deal with someone's feelings getting hurt. Weddings are an important time for families so I would send them an invitation. I invited my Uncle I have met a total of 2 times knowing he wouldn't come, but that way his feelings wouldn't get hurt. Just think about it this way, would you rather be invited to something even though you may or may not attend, or hear about it after the fact.
Reply:Nothing says you have to especially if your budget or the intimacy factor doesn't allow them to attend. You could always send them a wedding announcement to let them know you're hitched.
Reply:we are debating this, we will probably invite them out of courtesy but highly doubt they will show up we want to keep our guest count around 50 and no more than 75, we want an intimate wedding where everyone can mingle
Reply:no, its not necessary. We only plan on inviting people we see at least once a year!
Reply:Nope, not if you're having under 75.