Is it OK to invite people out and only serve (pay for) cake & champagne?

My husband and i are celebrating our anniversary, we invited a few (20) friends and family to join us at a lounge, we will buy a few bottles of champagne and we will bring a cake. After that they are on their own as far as drinking goes......Is this tacky?


We are also paying their way into the lounge/club and will have light food, but will really only serve alcohol for our toast. Is this tacky???????
Is it OK to invite people out and only serve (pay for) cake %26amp; champagne?
no it's not tacky. just make the invitation a desert invite. most people understand what that means. you are being more than generous in what you are offering.
Reply:Yes, mos healthy minded people love to come out for anything positive, even if its chips and soda. A delicious cake, some nice bubbly in pretty glasses, maybe a little fruit with honey, some pretty flowers and candles, people love seeing happiness. Maybe you can be clear from the jump start that it is a celebratory dessert get together. Have some little table gifts that they can take with them. I don't think this is tacky, but maybe your friends are used to drinking generously at similar functions, so they may be critical if this is the case. But you are not tacky in designing your beloved anniversary just the way you want it.
Reply:No. no one should be expecting you to do more. And the drinks that's out of the question, you know how your cousin's are when somethings free.
Reply:Only if they know up front that they pay for their own drinks and dinner. That way they can make a decision to go or not.





If they show up at the restaurant with a gift and then find out they need to pay for their dinner, people may end up feeling misled.





If money's an issue (and for me it always is!!), instead of going out, how about a party at home after the dinner hour (after 7pm - people will have eaten dinner already), so you can serve just hors d'ovres, champagne and dessert?
Reply:To each their own; I'd attend and be ok with it as long as I knew the details up front (cash bar)
Reply:i dont see nothing wrong with that, if theres food there, they can pay for thier own food, and u can just pay for drinks and deserts, or maybe just the drinks. thats not tacky,
Reply:Just make it clear before you go out...otherwise, it will be fine.
Reply:No I don't think so. You're just holding a celebration and offering celebratory drinks and light food. Not all parties have to be a full blown dinner and drinks. Just let your guests be aware of the type of food and drunks that are offered.
Reply:as long as you indicate what you are doing, it should be fine. i think you are being very generous paying for what you are, and as long as people know ahead of time and can plan for the event, i wouldn't worry. alcohol shouldn't be automatically included in your tab; that would be outrageously expensive for 20 people! paying for the champagne toast is sufficient.
Reply:why dont you tell everyone that way if they want to bring something they have the option too!
Reply:If your invite is: join us for a champange toast as we celebrate our anniv. at "blah blah Lounge"


small print: admission paid for each guest. Light refereshments and cake will be served. Cash bar available.





Then they know up front to come with money and what to eaxpect.





Not tacky since it's smaller group of friends
Reply:It's not tacky. Just state on the invitations "come join us for cake and champagne to celebrate our anniversary". It will state clearly what you are providing. (Add the light foods if you wish by stating light refreshments) you may also want to add the words "It will be a cash bar" so that they come prepared to pay, a rude suprise would be tacky.
Reply:should be okay so long as you clearly state what you will be providing. otherwise, if you invited them, you should pay for them.
Reply:not really. it depends on how close you are i guess.


but alot of people do that. is it a BYO lounge? coz u can write on the invitation something like:





you are invited to :"your name %26amp; your partners name"


Date:


Where:


entry Fee and Nibbles are provided


BYO Alcohol.





or something like that.
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