Is it mean to invite 9 out of the 12 kids in the class?

My daughter is having a party to mark the start of school, and she only wants to invite 9 of the 12 girls in her class. I'm not sure what to say, I want to make her happy but I also don't want to make those three girls upset. What should I do?
Is it mean to invite 9 out of the 12 kids in the class?
That is the rudest thing I have ever heard. Unless the three are mean to her. then screw 'em.
Reply:Just make sure the other girls don't out.
Reply:You should talk to her and find out why she doesn't want to invite them. If those girls are mean to her, then that's probably a valid reason. If they're just unpopular, then I would tell her that she should invite all of the girls.
Reply:Is there a particular reason she doesn't want to invite the other girls? In all fairness she should invite all her female classmates. If she doesn't get along with the other 3, chances are they won't come anyway, but she won't get the reputation for being 'exclusive'.


Is she inviting other people besides her classmates? Is there some number limit you have imposed?


I would tell your daughter that you think she should invite everyone and be a good hostess if the girls show up she really 'doesn't want'. It is a good lesson in life for her. She won't be able to pick and choose who she associates with all the time.
Reply:If it's a beginning of the school year party, and the party consists of 9 out of 12 girls in her class, then she really should invite them. It would not be worth the hurt feelings of the three who have been left out.
Reply:if she is younger than 8 or so, I'd say that she should definately invite the other girls, because all girls that age would probably enjoy to go.





but if she is older, she can probably decide who she likes and who she doesn't. there must be a reason why she doesn't like the other three girls, so i wouldn't force her. after all it is her party. and if the girls are older, they won't be upset if they don't get an invite.


everyone has their own friends as well as social groups at any age,





good luck.





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Reply:Yes that is very mean, your daughter should invite all the girls in the class and if they show up then she should be a gracious hostess, as was said before this is a good life lesson as when you get older you can't always pick who you have to associate with.
Reply:No, it's not mean.





Are you just feeling bad because only 3 girls will be left out? What if your daughter only wanted to invite 2 out of the 12 kids? Would you still feel bad that 10 kids were left out?





I know what it feels like to be "not invited" or left out of certain things. It's a part of life and you and your daughter shouldn't feel obligated to do something to make everybody happy. You can't make everybody happy all the time and it wouldn't hurt for those kids to learn that. It's how life works after all. Harsh, but true.
Reply:Ok. My son is the same way. He wants to invite some of the kids and frankly, I do too. There are some kids in his class that I don't particularly like. However, I don't think it is appropriate. You are supposed to teach your kids to like and get along with everyone. So excluding those kids go against that very lesson. Its a hard thing to do when they are human and just sometimes don't get along with someone.
Reply:It could be looked at as mean, but hey, kids gotta learn that life can be mean sometimes.





Besides, if your daughter only wants 9 out of 12, then that's all she wants. Maybe she hates the other three girls and they should best stay away.